I feel that there are so many times in my life, especially recently, where I struggle with know who I am, and who God wants me to be. Today, Ben and I went to a new church where they talked about identity theft, and the message really hit home.
So many of us get caught up in our identity, but how do we define who we are? For most of us, it has to do with what kind of job we have, how much money we make, or our title. For me, this is absolutely true. Think about it for a second…when you meet someone for the first time, what’s the first two things you talk about? First…your name…second…what you do?
This is so challenging for me, especially now, because I don’t have a job…but that shouldn’t matter! Why does it matter so much? When we lived in Florida and I was working at a TV station as the Morning Show Producer, I was so excited. It didn’t matter that I worked third shift, had to drive over an hour one way to work, and didn’t make a lot of money….because I could say that I was a “Morning Show Producer” for ABC! WOW right? I remember I couldn’t wait for someone to ask what I did for a living!
Now, it’s the opposite. Lately, I’ve dreaded the conversation and question of, “Amy, what do you do?” UGGHH…well I don’t have a job, I’ve applied to about 20 different ones, and I just stay home. I would, and still do, say it like it’s the worst thing in the world. I need a change, and quickly…
Just writing this, I get so upset with myself. But the reason I write this post, is to confess my struggle with my identity, and to hopefully relate to anyone out there who struggles with the same thing. Today I learned a valuable lesson, and God has shown me lately that HE will guide my way and has a plan for me. Everyday I continue to pray that God shows me His will for my life, and that He gives me the strength and courage to obey Him. But in order to do so…I must learn to give up control.
In one of my first posts, I talked about how I like to control every aspect of my life. Well, I can’t…this I know. I’ve applied to over 20 jobs since May, and haven’t heard back from one of them. I believe God is teaching me that I don’t need a job to define who I am, and I don’t need a job to carry out His will. This reminds me of a conversation I had with Ben one Sunday afternoon….I was getting teary-eyed in the car and told Ben that I didn’t think I could carry out God’s will or “work” for God if I didn’t have an income. I felt that money was tied to success! How silly is that thinking?..but it’s the truth.
So where does this conversation lead? Today, I am aware of my struggles and am striving to be a better person, a better wife, and a better friend. I understand my struggle with control and I want to give that up to God. I know I don’t need a job to define me as a person, and I believe that God has a plan for my life. I believe God gave me the passion to write for a reason, and I want to continue to listen to God and obey His plans for my life. I don’t know what they are, but I know I can work on myself, changing from the inside-out. I want to be able to stand firm in who I am in Christ and be proud to say whatever it is I do.
So I’ll try it out now….Hello everyone, my name is Amy! (What do you do?) I am a child of God and I work everyday to become a better person and seek God’s will for my life!